Friday 24th October 2018

3.00pm – 5.00pm - Afternoon Tea session to explore aims and focus for each couple privately with an introduction from Melissa on what Secure Functioning in a relationship means.  

6.30pm – Dinner Feast in Private room at stunning Harvest Restaurant

Saturday 25th October 2018


9.30-9.45am – guided meditation & reflection

9.45am – 11.00am – group session one:

  • How love and the brain works
  • An overview of the importance of being able to read your partner and how it helps create connection
  • Understanding the nature of "resentments"
  • What is secure-functioning?

11.15am - 12.30pm - group session two:     

  • How to create your own ‘Couple Bubble’
  • Understand interlocking of the nervous system and it's role in keeping relationships safe
  • How to move toward secure-functioning with your partner   

Lunch - Served in Samuel Marsden Room 

1.15pm – 6.00pm – free time and one-on-ones with Melissa

1.15pm – 2.05pm – couple 1, one-on-one counselling session with Melissa

2.10pm – 3.00pm – couple 2, one-on-one counselling session with Melissa

3.05pm – 3.55pm - couple 3, one-on-one counselling session with Melissa – 4.55pm - couple 4, one-on- one counselling session with Melissa

5.05pm - 6.00pm - couple 5 one-to-one counselling session with Melissa

Dinner for two in gorgeous Harvest Restaurant - romantic table for two at the time that suits you both. 

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Sunday 26th October 2018


9.30am-9.45am – guided meditation & reflection

9.45am – 11.00 am - group session one:

  • How to form jointly satisfying and lasting agreements based on fairness and mutuality
  • How to use the power of persuasion and seduction to influence your partner
  • How to bring more aliveness, energy and negotiation to your relationship

11.15am - 12.30pm - group session two:

  • How to fight well together and stay engaged
  • Understand how you and your partner relate considering relational attachment styles
  • How to manage what comes in from the outside e.g family etc...

Lunch - Served in Samuel Marsden Room

2.00pm – 3.15pm - group session three:

  • Formulation of your understanding of your relationship and how you interact together particularly when disagreements arise
  • Integration of understanding your partners relationship style characteristics & how it impacts how you both manage closeness and distance

3.30pm - 4.15pm - group session four: 

  • Forming daily rituals to improve connection and regulate each other's nervous system

4.15pm – 4.45pm – Retreat round-up with Goodbyes & Close

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