How A Caregivers Trauma Can Impact on A Child's Development.

How A Caregivers Trauma Can Impact on A Child's Development.

Often I talk about Relational Trauma and about how a person is shaped psychologically in relationships is directly affected by their parents and caregivers. Here is a great graphic I found that was created by The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine. This is how they explain it:

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You're Engaged - Congratulations! Now what?

You're Engaged - Congratulations! Now what?

Getting engaged is one of the most wonderful moments of anybody’s life. Bursting with romance and often surprise, it can create spontaneous joy and a huge rush of excitement that can last for days.  The phone runs hot, your social media feed is bubbling over with bubbly emojis and you are floating on a cloud. Here are my top tips to make sure planning your wedding becomes a ‘win win’ situation for both of you. 

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Seven Things to Help Get Your Relationship Back on Track.

Seven Things to Help Get Your Relationship Back on Track.

To keep a relationship on track with key elements like security, safety, support and love you need to have some kind of map of your partner’s inner world. If you feel you might have lost track of things, getting back on track is a process that’s not really a mystery. Here are seven ways to help get your relationship back on track if navigating your relationship love map has led you AWOL.

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Some hints on your role as a loving partner!

Some hints on your role as a loving partner!

The desire to have our unmet needs accomodated and valued by another can be a painful process for many. We bring with us all our own histories, blue prints, parenting, biology and to find a match that will see what needs attention or healing can be difficult. We all see the world through our own psychological lens. It's just the way it is and with mindfullness and attention it can be changed. 

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Eight Things That Could harm Your Marriage And How To Fix them

Eight Things That Could harm Your Marriage And How To Fix them

As a professional psychotherapist I’ve had the pleasure of working intimately with couples from all walks of life for over 17 years. I’ve seen great acts of kindness in couples and I’ve witnessed some terrible lows. Through the years I’ve seen many patterns and themes emerge that repeat across the many kinds of marriages that exist in today’s modern world. 

From my observation and experience I have created my own list of marriage killers and what needs to be done to stop these playing out in relationships. The good news is that doing the right thing to enhance your attachment is simple and consistency pays off. Avoiding these relationship killers can help transform your relationship!

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