Often I talk about Relational Trauma and about how a person is shaped psychologically in relationships is directly affected by their parents and caregivers. Here is a great graphic I found that was created by The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine. This is how they explain it:Read More
Accepting you partners influence can be an incredible buffer for when things get tough. If you are a couple that have developed this strength you are both investing in your emotional bank account that will be full for when issues may arise. Here are some of my tips on how to develop this part of your relationship .Read More
In-laws can be a cause of great strain on a relationship and be the reason behind of many fights and disagreements around the level of influence they have in the home. Here are my thoughts how to handle it between you as a couple.
Getting engaged is one of the most wonderful moments of anybody’s life. Bursting with romance and often surprise, it can create spontaneous joy and a huge rush of excitement that can last for days. The phone runs hot, your social media feed is bubbling over with bubbly emojis and you are floating on a cloud. Here are my top tips to make sure planning your wedding becomes a ‘win win’ situation for both of you.Read More
When you have been with your partner for a long time, it’s easy to take them for granted and even forget what attracted you to them in the first place. Here are some simple tips to keep the love alive in your relationship:Read More
"Science can now explain that couples who learn to greet each other mindfully and consciously at the end of the day have a better chance at maintaining good connection and bonding!"
- Melissa Ferrari - Couple Therapist
To keep a relationship on track with key elements like security, safety, support and love you need to have some kind of map of your partner’s inner world. If you feel you might have lost track of things, getting back on track is a process that’s not really a mystery. Here are seven ways to help get your relationship back on track if navigating your relationship love map has led you AWOL.Read More
Stress can have a detrimental impact on a couple's sexual relationship in that it can affect sexual desire, expectation and performance. In this video, psychotherapist Stan Tatkin, PsyD, explains how stress can lead to sexual dysfunction issues.Read More
The desire to have our unmet needs accomodated and valued by another can be a painful process for many. We bring with us all our own histories, blue prints, parenting, biology and to find a match that will see what needs attention or healing can be difficult. We all see the world through our own psychological lens. It's just the way it is and with mindfullness and attention it can be changed.Read More
As a professional psychotherapist I’ve had the pleasure of working intimately with couples from all walks of life for over 17 years. I’ve seen great acts of kindness in couples and I’ve witnessed some terrible lows. Through the years I’ve seen many patterns and themes emerge that repeat across the many kinds of marriages that exist in today’s modern world.
From my observation and experience I have created my own list of marriage killers and what needs to be done to stop these playing out in relationships. The good news is that doing the right thing to enhance your attachment is simple and consistency pays off. Avoiding these relationship killers can help transform your relationship!Read More