Many relationships can survive and thrive after someone has cheated, but usually only if both people work together to address the problems. Listen to a 3 minute interview here with Melissa on why people cheat.Read More
Often I talk about Relational Trauma and about how a person is shaped psychologically in relationships is directly affected by their parents and caregivers. Here is a great graphic I found that was created by The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine. This is how they explain it:Read More
During an interview with Today co-host Carson Daly on Friday, Pink revealed that she and husband Carey Hart have been in couples counselling for nearly 17 years and that she believes it is what has helped their relationship thrive. This was exciting news for myself as a couple therapist and a person who has been in couple therapy myself with my gorgeous husband, Skip.Read More
Our relationships change over time, from that first moment when we meet someone when the dopamine rush has us feeling all ‘loved’ up, to building a life together, creating a family, raising kids, all the time trying to stay connected, despite the distractions life throws at us.
The reality is that when you have been with your partner for an extended time, you naturally start to take them for granted, with idiosyncrasies that you once found cute becoming little more than an annoyance.Read More
In-laws can be a cause of great strain on a relationship and be the reason behind of many fights and disagreements around the level of influence they have in the home. Here are my thoughts how to handle it between you as a couple.
Melissa’s Intensive therapy is open to couples from all over Australia. In the privacy of her professional and roomy office, you and your partner will undergo a 3 day intensive therapy program - 5 hours per day of couple therapy. This can be an effective way to shift long-seated resentments and problems within your relationship. Many couples who commit to the process find this experience helps kick-start their relationship again without the pain and conflict that has been holding them back from love, intimacy and closeness for some time.Read More
It sounds like a simple thing, but it’s amazing how many couples forget to show their love for one another. Saying “I love you” regularly is great, but this alone is not enough, you need to actually show how much you care with thoughtful gestures, intimate moments and meaningful actions.
Here are my top five tips to show your partner that you love them (most of which can also be applied to other relationships with loved ones):Read More
Spring is here and it's a season I love! Fantastic opportunity to use the newness that spring brings to rev up your relationship. Here are my 6 top tips to use the energy of spring to give your relationship a boost.Read More
If you have hit ground-hog day and keep running into the same old problems in your relationship, having repeated arguments or if you have lost the intimacy, then it might be time to take time out and seek professional help.Read More
Falling in love is just the first stage of love and expecting to stay in this stage forever is not realistic. With maturity a relationship shifts from infatuation and that feeling of can’t sleep at night dizzy love to a settled sense of relationship security that offers a longer lasting sense of love.
Commonly people make the mistake of believing that when that dizzy feeling fades that love has faded with it and that the couple is no longer ‘in love’. Many people chase that first stage of love by starting a new relationship with someone else – a circular process that has no ending.
Acknowledging and understanding that this stage does fade can be a huge step in feeling “happy” in your relationship again.
The secret to long-term happiness is to work through this early stage of the relationship. You and your partner can move on to a relationship that offers more solidity and strong security by putting in some extra work.
Don’t just chase the kind of love we see in movies. Don’t move on to another partner to experience that “high”. It’s not sustainable.
Instead, stay and work through your own style of love and create your own “romantic chapter” under your own roof because despite the changing nature of our relationships, of course romance remains an important part of a relationship that deserves our attention.
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As a professional psychotherapist I’ve had the pleasure of working intimately with couples from all walks of life for over 15 years. I’ve seen great acts of kindness in couples and I’ve witnessed some terrible lows. Through the years I’ve seen many patterns and themes emerge that repeat across the many kinds of marriages that exist in today’s modern world.
From my observation and experience I have created my own list of marriage killers and what needs to be done to stop these playing out in relationships. The good news is that doing the right thing to enhance your attachment is simple and consistency pays off. Avoiding these relationship killers can help transform your relationship!
“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
― Brené Brown
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