Creating Security In Relationship with Dr. Stan Tatkin

Co-hosting this week is Andrea Turner Boys and Melissa Ferrari - In this week's Women On Top program we speak with  Dr. Stan Tatkin author of Wired For Love, Wired For Dating, Love & War In Intimate Relationships and Your Brain On Love. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) and in today's show he speaks in this interview so generously about love/relationships, couple therapy, secure and insecure attachment in relationships, intimacy, dating, parenting, attachment in children and how to manage ourselves in love and close relationships.


Dr. Stan Tatkin is who I trained with in both Sydney and Canada over the past few years in A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy which is PACT was developed out of exciting, cutting-edge research in three areas -  

The first is neuroscience, the study of the human brain. Understanding how the brain works provides a physiological basis for understanding how people act and react within relationships. In a nutshell, some areas of your brain are wired to reduce threat and danger and seek security, while others are geared to establish mutuality and loving connection.

The second is attachment theory, which explains the biological need to bond with others. Experiences in early relationships create a blueprint that informs the sense of safety and security you bring to adult relationships. Insecurities that have been carried through life can wreak havoc for a couple if these issues are not resolved.

The third area is the biology of human arousal—meaning the moment-to-moment ability to manage one’s energy, alertness, and readiness to engage.

This year I am travelling to Los Angeles to complete Level 3 in this fantastic work. After 18 years working as a couple therapist I have searched far and wide to find what works with couples and relationships. From the minute I met Dr. Stan Tatkin and heard about his approach after reading his many books I knew I had found what made my heart sing. I enjoy this work and I especially enjoy the results it brings to the couples I work with.  

I wish to thank Stan for being so generous with his time and information in this interview. I highly recommend purchasing the books above on Amazon or any other online bookstore.  

Any questions relating to Dr. Stan Tatkin's interview please email Melissa Ferrari -

Further Recommended Reading: 

 Parenting From The Inside Out by Dr. Daniel Siegel

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