Working as a couple therapist I often hear of couples looking for some simple written guidance that serve as good reminders on how to take care of their relationship. These Ten Commandments by Stan Tatkin are written beautifully with many important aspects of a secure relationship in mind.    

Stan Tatkin is the author of Wired For Love - A guide to understanding a partner's brain and promoting love and trust within a romantic relationship. It helps readers learn scientific principles they can use to avoid triggering fear and panic in their partners, and recognize when the brain's threat response is hindering their ability to act in a loving way.

Last year I trained in Dr. Stan Tatkin's work called A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy. Since using this I find couples are in treatment for a shorter amount of time than other therapies. They report a new genuine connection and understanding of each other they didn't have before working with me in this model of work.  

Melissa Ferrari 

Posted with permission from Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT.

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